We spend our whole lives trying to figure out who we are. We spend about as much time trying to figure out who other people are, come to think of it.
This is totally normal: it’s honestly just human nature. We’ve come up with a lot of ways to categorize people, make them fit into different boxes. We don’t do this because we like it: we actually hate being put into boxes for any reason. Rather, we do this because this is kind of how we try and understand people, despite how we actually feel about being put in our boxes. This is also true of the zodiac: each sign comes with lots of stereotypes, which is why we say things like “he’s such a Scorpio” or “be careful around her, she’s a Virgo.” However, it’s a lot deeper than that.
Sure, the different zodiac signs are known for certain common personality traits, but deep down, each sign is more than it appears. Your sign might appear to be really straightforward and direct, but in actuality, it’s more representative of someone who knows how people work and the exact right thing to say. Your sign might be known for being really stubborn, but it turns out that you’re way more agreeable than you let on. Regardless, we need to stop pigeonholing ourselves and get to the core of all our layers to find out who we really are. Here’s what you’re really like under all your layers according to your zodiac sign and gender. Make sure you also check out your moon sign, which will give you that much extra insight!
24. Under His Layers: Aries – You’re The Most Fun Person In Any Room
As an Aries, you’re a man who knows how to live with intensity. You’re a born leader in work and in play, which can make you one of the most fun people anyone will ever come across. You’re so eager and enthusiastic about new things that it’s infectious: people around you can’t help but have fun with you. You live for spirited discussions about any topic and know how to get people to like you. However, you can’t explain why people like you: you just know that people can’t help but respond to you. You’re always at 1000%, whether you’re happy, sad, or angry. When you’re feeling some type of way, people will know about it.
23. Under Her Layers: Aries – You’re Secretly Really Competitive
Many people think that the Aries woman just likes to be a leader and will only get down and dirty if she gets to be the leader. This couldn’t be further from the truth. See, the average Aries woman is secretly the most competitive person in the whole zodiac. If you’re an Aries woman, you’re used to being at the head of the pack, and you’ll take down who you need to to get there. This is by no means a bad thing: if anything this is part of what motivates you to do great things! However, you could come off really intense to those around you who might not know how to deal with that. While that’s fair, if they can’t stand the heat, they really should get out of the kitchen so you can do your thing.
22. Under His Layers: Taurus – You Hate Arguing And Will Compromise More Easily Than Anyone Thinks
As stubborn as you have the reputation of being, you’re honestly a person who doesn’t really like conflict. Sure, you like getting your way, but you don’t need to get your way in order to be happy. You’re not just stubborn about getting what you want, you’re stubborn about making sure that the people in your life feel valued and happy, and you’re willing to sacrifice a lot to make that happen. As a Taurus man, you also have an affinity for traditionalism and are kind of old-school in your habits, so you’re a lot more likely to let chivalry win the day rather than your own stubbornness. It’s what makes you such a comforting person to be around.
21. Under Her Layers: Taurus – People Think You’re Uptight But You’re Actually Down To Earth
Because you can be so practical, Taurus woman, you’re often seen as this super uptight person whose temper stands on the edge of a knife and no one knows what they’re going to get with you. On top of that, your affinity for the finer things in life can make you seem really high maintenance and like you’re really hard to please. This does not describe you at all. In reality, the Taurus woman is one of the most down-to-earth, low maintenance women you’ll ever meet. It doesn’t take much to make you happy. You’re the type of person who will be just as happy eating fast food in a parking lot as you would be in a five-star restaurant if you’re with the right people.
20. Under His Layers: Gemini – You Have The Best Kind Of Attitude
As a Gemini man, you’re a person who knows how to communicate. You might not know how to communicate in every given situation, but you can pick up on social cues a lot faster than other guys, which is often why women tend to gravitate to you. You’re a man who values all sides of a conversation, and you often find yourself arguing both sides of a debate because you seek to understand everyone and everything. This can make you a little indecisive at times, but more often than not this impulse to understand people fundamentally gives you a great attitude about life and humanity. You’re flexible and you like it when people feel like they’re being heard, and as much as you like to talk, you like to listen, too.
19. Under Her Layers: Gemini – You’re Way More Direct Than You Let On
As a Gemini woman, you’re the type of person who loves to talk to people. However, since the Gemini sing is represented by the Twins, you kind of have this reputation for being the girl with more than one personality. This is true for the most part, but those personalities aren’t fake: you are always being some version of yourself so a personality change or two really won’t mess with your sense of identity. If anything, Gemini women can be very direct when it comes to telling people what they think. They know there’s a place for social niceties, but they also know that the best way to get things done is to meet a situation head-on. After all, how will you know someone understands you if you don’t tell them what you think?
18. Under His Layers: Cancer – You Hate Wearing Your Heart On Your Sleeve
As a Cancer guy, you wear your heart on your sleeve, but you hate this about yourself. Even if you’ve made peace with it, there’s a part of you that wishes that you weren’t such an open book to those around you. You’re a kindhearted guy who’s willing to do anything for those that he loves, but more importantly, you’re a guy who’s often underestimated in this respect. Because you’re so emotional, a lot of people tend to think that you can’t be tough or dig in your heels on the important things, but the people who try to walk all over you are in for a major surprise. There are times that you wish you weren’t quite so sensitive, but it’s that very sensitivity that gives you the empathy to understand people, so it’s a great thing you should never try to lose.
17. Under Her Layers: Cancer – You’re Tougher Than Your Emotions Make You Look
The Cancer woman is one of the most sensitive in the zodiac. This is honestly true no matter how you slice it: as a Cancer, you wear your heart on your sleeve regardless of gender. That being said, it’s your forthrightness with your emotions that makes you such a strong person. You’re much tougher than the people around you give you credit for. You have an incredible sense of intuition and will use it when the situation calls for it, and when you feel like you’re not being listened to in this regard, you’re going to make sure you are heard. You’re sympathetic to others, but you know when tough love is needed, primarily because you know when you’d need it yourself.
16. Under His Layers: Leo – You’re Low-Key The Most Driven Person In The World
As a Leo man, you’re a person who’s used to being the center of attention. You’re used to kind of being a human magnet in a lot of ways: people who want to date you gravitate to you quickly, and people who don’t want to date you want to learn how to be more like you. Considering your sign is ruled by the Sun, this isn’t surprising at all. You’re a person who can be stubborn, but more than that, you’re opinionated about a lot of things. These two qualities, along with your superhuman way with people, equal the traits of the most driven person anyone will ever meet. You can’t stop moving forward until you’re on top of the world, and because of your inner personality, you can actually make that happen.
15. Under Her Layers: Leo – You’re More Intuitive Than Most Assume
As a Leo woman, people often think that you’re the person who only really operates in broad strokes. You laugh, love, and live big, and it’s something that the world loves about you. That being said, just because you’re a big personality doesn’t mean that you don’t see the small details of things. In actuality, Leo women are some of the most intelligent and creative women out there because of that attention to detail that often goes overlooked by others. This is why there are so many Leo women out there that happen to be famous. As a Leo woman, you have your set of talents and skills, but you also understand that it takes more than that to get to where you need to go.
14. Under His Layers: Virgo – You Don’t Play The Games Other Guys Play
As a Virgo man, you feel this huge burden on your shoulders to be the best man you can be. Your sense of duty and work ethic makes you one of the most reliable men in the zodiac, and you love being that guy. You revel in the little details, the minutiae that other guys would overlook or just not care about. This incredible work ethic makes you one of the most straight-shooting and straightforward guys to get into a dating situation with. You’re never going to want to play games with someone you’re trying to date or be romantic with. If you want to be with them, you’re going to tell them. If you’re just trying to be casual, you’re going to tell them that too and let the chips fall where they mean. Your eye for detail will help you never miss a birthday or an anniversary, and your loyalty to those you love will show in everything you do for them.
13. Under Her Layers: Virgo – You’re Secretly The Life Of The Party
Virgo women get a bad rap for being uptight and all about the work. This is true to a degree: you need things to make sense and you put a lot of value into your work. However, it would be a mistake for others to assume that that is all that you are. Experiences matter more to Virgo women than dreams, but all that means is that a Virgo woman lives in the present and not in the unknown somewhere. Virgo women have the skills to plan a great party and the outlook on life to really enjoy it. It’s often why you’ll often find a Virgo in every #squad. Virgos are equal parts “mom friend” and daring adventurer, which means that she’ll show you a good time and get everyone home the next morning in one piece. Now that’s a skill set to be proud of!
12. Under His Layers: Libra – You’re A Romantic At Heart And Are Never Jealous
Unlike some of the other guys of the zodiac, you don’t have a jealous bone in your body. You can be a little indecisive at times, but this is because you genuinely don’t like conflict and will actively avoid it if you can. You value peace and quiet and you’re honestly a really balanced guy at heart. You want to do what’s best for everyone, which can be pretty great for those around you. You choose your company carefully and could never be accused of keeping bad company because you tend to have a pretty good sense of judgment on things like that. More importantly, when you choose a significant other, you will make sure they’re someone you can show your romantic side to. You consider every angle and don’t like to jump into things without analyzing it from all angles, which is why jealousy doesn’t mean all that much to you. After all, why get jealous when there could be something else going on?
11. Under Her Layers: Libra – You’re Sensitive Just Under The Surface
Libra women are often seen as trying to be perfect all the time. As a Libra woman, you value fairness above all things and you’re probably a very big believer in karma. You’re open to all sorts of different ways of thinking, which can actually give you an indecisive streak because you’re so busy weighing all your options. That being said, this is the outlook you feel like you have to have because the last thing you want is to let your emotions run the show. You know that in order to make good decisions and to be a well-rounded person that you need to be both emotional and logical, and you spend a lot of time keeping your feelings in check. You’re actually a really sensitive person, but you don’t show that to people unless you really trust them.
10. Under His Layers: Scorpio – You’re Great At Understanding People
As a Scorpio man, you have a great understanding of people, but in a different way than others do. While other guys can understand a person’s emotions, you have an instinctual ability to understand what makes a person tick. You’re one of those guys who have no real problem with prodding people to see what gets a reaction out of them and remember that information for later. As much as you value the people in your life, you don’t see a ton of value in people in and of themselves: it’s the fact that your people are yours that makes them valuable to you. People who aren’t your people tend to be seen as resources or associates to you, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You’re a deeply resolute person that anyone would be dumb to bet against: you have a lot of drive and know how to win.
9. Under Her Layers: Scorpio – You’re Really Not All That Intense
As a Scorpio woman, you are not a person anyone should take lightly. If someone is in your way, you’re not above running them over and making them regret ever crossing you. You’re an intense person who doesn’t know how to phone it in. That being said, you more than anyone know how exhausting being that intense all the time can be. As much as you value that part of yourself, you understand that a person can’t live their life that way all the time and that you could really use a break from it when you can. Scorpios have a personality that can lend to being a bit self-destructive because of that intensity, and deep down you know that that could also be you, so you make sure that you’re always taking care of yourself so that doesn’t happen.
8. Under His Layers: Sagittarius – You’re Secretly Really Mature
Sagittarians of all genders have a reputation for being flaky free spirits who don’t take things all that seriously, but when you get to know a Sagittarius guy, you’ll realize that can’t be further from the truth. Sagittarius guys are actually some of the most mature people you’ll ever meet. They might not be the most conventionally dependable people you’ll come across, but in all seriousness, Sagittarius guys are very intelligent and make their decisions based on logic, not emotion. He knows how to listen and would rather listen than talk in any conversation. This is not a man who will go into a situation and not have the big picture in mind, making him a deep thinker and a very mature person.
7. Under Her Layers: Sagittarius – You Can Be Pretty Uptight Despite Being A Free Spirit
As a Sagittarius woman, you’re kind of like the manic pixie dream girl of the zodiac. People kind of ascribe these super free-spirit character tropes onto you because they think that because you’re a wandering soul that loves adventure that you don’t have issues and things to work through of your own. Because you have that reputation, you’re the type of person who’s going to go out of her way to try and make sure no one else knows that you can be just as uptight as everyone else around you. While everything fascinates you in its own way, that doesn’t mean that things don’t freak you out or that you don’t have taboos, and you’d honestly appreciate if people understood that more about you.
6. Under His Layers: Capricorn – You’re The Most Patient Person In The World
Capricorns tend to get a reputation for never taking any time to stop and smell the flowers, but in the case of Capricorn men, this isn’t quite true. In reality, Capricorn men can be really patient. It’s this patience that allows their most long-term plans to come to fruition and gives them the peace of mind to work tirelessly to make their dreams a reality. It’s also this patience that encourages the Capricorn man to take a day off and spend time with the people he cares about. Capricorn men are ambitious, but the ones most secure in themselves know how to take care of themselves so they don’t totally burn out for no reason. He’s also patient enough to achieve his goals fairly: no cutting corners or unnecessary risks here!
5. Under Her Layers: Capricorn – You Can Be The Funniest Person In The Room
Capricorn women are ambitious to a fault and tough, which gives people the impression that you’re always taciturn and maybe even a bit of a bore. This is patently untrue: Capricorn women know how to let loose better than just about everyone else because they’re constantly working so hard. Capricorn women might not have the same sense of humor as those around her, but they are extremely funny when they want to be. As a Capricorn woman, you might not love people the same way a woman from another sign would, but you understand the necessity of making sure people like you, so you developed different ways of communicating in different situations. While you’re not a traditional social butterfly or a chatterbox, you know that keeping your nose to the grindstone all the time will grind away at your ambition, so you don’t do that.
4. Under His Layers: Aquarius – You’re A Little Inconsistent, But You’re Really Caring
The Aquarius man is an original and kind of a genius when it comes to thinking big thoughts. That being said, the Aquarius man is often so wrapped up in his thoughts that he forgets to talk to people. These are not conventional guys in the slightest: don’t expect traditional romance from these guys. However, just because they don’t show their feelings in the same way as other guys doesn’t mean they don’t care. In actuality, these guys care a lot more than most. As forward-thinking as the Aquarius man is, he doesn’t think it has any meaning unless he has someone to share it with. Aquarians don’t care about people because those people are their people, they care about people on a far more humanitarian scale: because they’re people. That’s a way of thinking that no other sign has.
3. Under Her Layers: Aquarius – You’re Empathetic, But Secretly One Of The Most Manipulative
I’m an Aquarius woman myself, and even I get a little annoyed when people tell me that Aquarian women don’t care about people and they only care about intellectual pursuits because that’s just wrong. As an Aquarius woman, you’re incredibly empathetic and you have a great way of thinking about a problem in a different way than anyone else in the room would. You’re an enigma in the best sense of the word: you are never what others expect you to be. However, because you’re a person who sees the world intellectually, you see people that way as well. If left unchecked, you can become incredibly manipulative. You have the secret ability to watch people, see what makes them tick, and effortlessly skirt around people to get them to do what you want.No one expects you to be able to do anything like this, so you go unchecked. Luckily, most Aquarius women either don’t realize they have this ability, or they have the self-awareness and control not to abuse it.
2. Under His Layers: Pisces – You’re Much More Simple Than People Think
As the final sign of the zodiac, the Pisces man shouldn’t be surprised to find out that he’s kind of an amalgamation of the other signs. People often think that the Pisces man is a pushover because of his emotionality and dreamer qualities, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. The Pisces man is a deep thinker and can communicate better than most, but deep down he’s a simple guy with simple wants and needs. People who overcomplicate him tend to exasperate him: he’s not necessarily a person who likes or wants drama in his life. He just wants people in his life that will respect his selflessness and be just as loyal to him, and the space to be himself.
1. Under Her Layers: Pisces – You’re Actually The Most Intense Woman In The Zodiac
As a Pisces woman, you’re truly the biggest dreamer in the whole zodiac. You’re far more likely to base your decisions on things you can’t see and look forward into the future because there’s deeper meaning in the future. Pisces women are often artists in some way, and while you have the potential to be a really gentle and laid-back person, you’re definitely not most of the time. Most of the Pisces women I know don’t identify with the Pisces stereotypes at all. They’re not the embodiment of calm spirituality that many people think they are: they are storms in human form that are capable of being more intense and passionate than anyone else in the room. This is a woman who embodies the deep, still water that her sign represents: calm and still at the surface, but filled with the unknown just below.