The last article I wrote made me want to show my fellow-men some attention too. While this page isn’t biased, it sometimes seems that way because both me and Z are sensitive guys, we are both in happy relationships and sometimes it seems like all we care about are the ladies on our page, that’s not true. Men are different, men are strong, men are often quiet about their feelings because it’s just not in their nature, men tend to expect a certain amount of things from their partners and they don’t want to ask for those things because they think it’s pretty obvious.
This article is for all the ladies out there who have a difficult time in reading the minds of their men. Some of these might seem majorly obvious but I wouldn’t be writing them if people didn’t ignore them. Let’s begin.
1. They want respect
This is one of the pillars of every successful relationship. All men desire respect from their partners, I do too. I consider myself very lucky because I never had to ask for it, it’s a very sad place to be in if you actually have to ask for respect from your significant other. What does it mean to respect a guy? It’s very simple. Men need acknowledgment. Acknowledgment of their success, their positivities and their endeavours. Let me talk about myself, I’m successful in life because of the support I get from people, because of the acceptance and the feeling of love I get that no matter what decision I take, I’ll always have people who will be proud of my accomplishments.
My girlfriend is a blessing to me because she respects me for who I am and she NEVER lets a day go by without reassuring me of my life. She respects me in front of my friends even more. It means the world to me to know that the love of my life truly respects me for everything I am. It’s not that hard, ladies. Make him smile.
2. Pure admiration
Admiration and respect really go hand in hand with one another. Your man wants nothing more from you than your admiration in whatever he does for the two of you. The point here is “TRUE” admiration, you can’t be fake about it. Guys can very easily sense fake admiration and they may or may not tell you to stop faking it. Just be true about it, admire him for everything he does, for all the hard work he puts in for the two of you and he’ll be pleased more than ever. Trust me, it works. She admires me for everything I am and I do the same in return, no fake admiration whatsoever. Complete happiness isn’t that hard to achieve.
3. Your companionship
Companionship is key, most men just expect you to be there and they don’t think they need to ask you (I’m the same in this case). When I have something important, like a huge business launch or a major event, I always want her by my side and it needs to happen naturally so I never ask her, but she still shows up on her own. This natural companionship is very important. If you have to ask your lady to be with you when it’s important for you, you’re just taking the purity out of it, she NEEDS to be there on her own. So ladies, give him the companionship he desires from you and you’ll get the same or more from him in return.
All men want and love encouragement. I’m going to talk about myself here, I find nothing more empowering than her support and the way she encourages me to keep striving for the best. It’s said that behind every successful man there’s a woman, it’s very true and the same goes for me. I work hard because she encourages me to never stop believing in myself, she makes me realize my strengths and she makes my weaknesses seem nonexistent. Ladies, believe in your man, encourage him and support him with everything you have, you’ll find yourself in a better place with him.
5. True appreciation
Men adore appreciation when it comes from the heart. It’s not too hard to do either, all you have to do is thank him or smile when he does something for you, when he goes out of his way to make you happy, when he puts in that extra effort to make sure you’re smiling. Appreciating even the smallest of acts is something you can do to make him really happy about his actions. When people are underappreciated, they slowly stop putting an effort out for you because they feel empty inside. Don’t let that happen to him and appreciate everything he does for you. You will notice him doing even more for you when he sees you appreciate his efforts, because I do the same.
6. His “guy time”
Guys don’t ask for personal space, because it’s not something that’s out of the ordinary or shocking. As long as your guy is hanging with his buddies, you should understand that he doesn’t love you any less by doing that. All guys have a code, my friends support my relationship because my girlfriend is extremely cool with all of them, when I hang out with my boys she never asks me twice. That sort of independence also creates a whole new bond of trust that doesn’t just develop that easily, it tells the guy that his girlfriend/wife trusts him without any doubts. Give him his “guy time”, ladies.
7. Your endless support
Without her support, I would not be here, I would have been a doctor (something I hated being) and would have been living a boring average life. I couldn’t be here without all of her endless support, and I never once had to ask for it, she always knew the right things to say and do to make me feel like I have all the power in the world to do whatever I want. That kind of support, selfless support, is insanely important for any man’s self esteem to be greater than ever.
Self-confidence is something I greatly lacked, and people use examples of me today because of what she made me. Now imagine this is your guy talking, don’t you feel good that he’s saying such good things about you? That he’s giving you credit to all of his success? He will if you show him true and endless support.
Men generally play a lot of different roles in life and it’s very vital that you recognize him for everything he does and tries to do. They are sons, brothers, husbands, fathers, so many different roles, and they rarely ever get recognized for it. I recognize my girl for every role she plays in her life and she does the same to me. Ladies, recognize your man if you want him to do the same.
Men love being desired as much as women or maybe more, but they’ll never tell you that, ever. Flirt with him every now and then, relationships without romance are dead relationships. Let him know how handsome he is, tell him you adore him, tell him how much you love him. Men get an instant boost in self-confidence when they know how much they’re desired by the women they love.