Arguing is a normal part of relationships, and it can even be healthy. As pointed out by Psychology Today, research suggests that conflict and arguing actually enable people in relationships to have a greater awareness of each other.
However, there’s a catch. How you argue is important and should be healthy and respectful. What makes this tricky at times is that people argue in different ways. Interestingly, their signs have something to do with their fighting styles!
Therefore, it helps to know how different signs deal with arguments and fighting in romantic relationships, especially if you’ve just started dating someone new. For example, people born under the sign of Aries will be open about the fact that they’re upset and tell you exactly what you’ve done to make them angry. Cancer, on the other hand, is pretty emotional and will try really hard to see things from your perspective during a fight.
By knowing how each sign deals with arguments, you’re better equipped to know what to expect and how to deal so that you prevent your arguments from becoming toxic. Here are the fighting styles of both men and women born under the 12 signs.
His Aries Fighting Style: He’ll Tell You Immediately That He’s Upset
The only catch is that Aries despises being wrong.
As reported by Elite Daily, when an Aries is upset he’ll let his partner know immediately and with such well-articulated truth that they’ll battle to defend themselves. Yikes! This can definitely cause a heated argument if you’re also sticking to your guns because you’re not going to hear each other out.
Her Aries Fighting Style: She Has A List Of Things You’ve Done!
Based on the fact that Aries comes to an argument with hard, cold facts, the Aries woman will give you a list of things that you’ve done to upset her. Yup, there’s a full list, probably dating back months! If you’ve upset her, you can expect her to show that she’s hurt by being angry. She’ll use your weaknesses against you and call you names, according to Paired Life.
So, tread carefully with the Ram, because once you push her she won’t go down without a fight. She also loves a challenge so she’ll be striving to win.
His Taurus Fighting Style: He Waits Patiently For You To Finish Talking
The Taurus guy doesn’t want to fight, but if you end up arguing with him, he will be rational. He’s the type who’ll think through the entire argument so he can deal with it in the best, most practical way.
He’s going to let you say what’s on your mind, thanks to his patient nature.
He’s also the type of person who wants to end the fight so that you both get closure and still like each other. So, he’ll likely want to give you a hug because he’s affectionate and likes touch, according to Thought Catalog. Just don’t take advantage of his patience – the bull of the astrology signs has a temper!
Her Taurus Fighting Style: She Shuts Down
While the Taurus guy might give you the time of day during a fight, a Taurus woman will shut down. She can be very emotional but she won’t let that get in the way of winning. Yup, the Taurus sign can be pretty stubborn at times and dig her heels right into the ground. You won’t be able to budge her, which can definitely be infuriating.
While it seems like she’s giving you a cold shoulder, though, she’s actually trying to come across as sane and practical while you look like the crazy person, as reported by Elite Daily. Ha!
His Gemini Fighting Style: He Wants To Resolve Things Quickly
People born under the sign of Gemini are always known for having two sides to their personalities. So fighting with a Gemini guy can go in different ways, with no fight ever really being the same as the one before. This can throw you for a loop, but the one thing you can expect is for Gemini to end the fight really fast.
He wants to make peace and then go and have fun together.
He hates grudges and won’t leave a fight hanging for long. Since Gemini also surprises you all the time, it’s not unheard of for him to laugh during a heated argument to diffuse the tension.
Her Gemini Fighting Style: She Becomes Dramatic, Saying Things She’ll Later Regret
Although a Gemini gal might be keen to resolve a fight before it becomes exhausting, there are times when she’ll be hard-hitting and unrelenting during an argument. Gemini says what’s on her mind, even if you didn’t ask for it, and she’s honest about what her issues are and why you’ve done something wrong.
If you’re trying to beat around the bush with a Gemini woman during a fight, tread carefully – you’ll be confronted about your sneaky tactics! As Elite Daily reports, “Geminis are clever and quick on their feet; you’ll be beaten before you knew what was coming.”
His Capricorn Fighting Style: He Can Be Condescending
Although he can be pretty carefree and laid-back, the Capricorn man takes himself very seriously and this is best seen during an argument with him. He can get hurt really fast, especially if the fight has snowballed out of control.
Instead of showing you that he’s hurt, though, his pride gets in the way and has the effect of making him become condescending.
He might say things that he’ll regret later, or he might become a mansplainer, making you feel like he knows everything. Sometimes you need to chill, Mr. Smarty Pants! Arguing with a Capricorn man can be infuriating.
Her Capricorn Fighting Style: She’ll Express What Faults She Finds In You
Since she has the tendency to be a bit self-righteous during a fight, the Capricorn woman will tell you what’s wrong with you and catalog all your faults. If she’s particularly stressed out or angry during the argument, you should brace yourself for hearing some hard-hitting insults that she’s ready to dish out without warning.
She won’t back down from a fight, but she’s also not the type to lose her temper- which means she’ll deliver her criticisms stoically. Fortunately, a temper flare is a rare thing to witness in the Capricorn woman, as she’s way too self-controlling to resort to such measures.
His Aquarius Fighting Style: He Delays The Fight
You might think the Aquarius man tries to delay a fight, such as by saying you’ll talk about it later because he’s avoiding it. But in actual fact, he’s just being distant because he wants to defend himself against his own emotions, as Thought Catalogreports. This is also why he’d rather argue in person than over the phone, where misunderstandings can occur.
He needs to take time to deal with his thoughts and feelings before entering into a confrontation, though.
The Aquarius man is very intelligent, and when he does meet with you to argue, he’ll be a reasonable person who thinks deeply about your perspective, the site goes on to explain.
Her Aquarius Fighting Style: She Says “Let’s Take A Breather For Five Seconds”
Similar to the Aquarius man, the Aquarius woman will want to stop and take a breather in the middle of a fight. This is especially the case if emotions are running high. It might actually be better for the Aquarius woman to write down her feelings as she communicates better in writing, and this also has the effect of preventing heated moments with which she dreads having to deal.
She’s not confrontational and would prefer to be calm and rational during a fight, which is why a five-minute timeout during an argument is good for both parties to keep a cool head.
His Pisces Fighting Style: He’ll Be Loving And Try To Find A Solution To The Proble
The Pisces man is the type of guy who’s a lover, not a fighter. He’ll try to be loving during the fight and come up with a solution. However, if he ends up being in a drama-filled fight, he’ll try to paint himself as the victim.
As reported by Elite Daily, martyrdom is the Pisces person’s number one coping strategy during a conflict.
Yikes. But once they get some time alone to deal with their feelings and thoughts, they’ll see where they went wrong. Then later, they’ll want to apologize for their bad behavior before you hold a grudge.
Her Pisces Fighting Style: She Apologizes Quickly, Even If It’s Not Her Fault
That’s not good as it makes the Pisces woman more likely to get manipulated by those taking advantage of her. The Pisces woman would do well to set herself some boundaries, ASAP, but her partner also needs to recognize her weaknesses and not take advantage of them.