If you don’t believe women when they say nice guys come in first, you might want to learn how to be a bad boy. And get in touch with your primitive side.
Since you’re here, you’re probably a nice guy looking to add a little flare to yourself. If you’ve wondered how to be a bad boy, follow these 14 steps to add some sizzle and flare. The girls will go wild. I promise.
What is it about the bad boy?
I remember seeing Ryan from The O.C. and that’s when my love for bad boys grew into something much more than I could handle. Was it the cigarette hanging from his mouth? The way he never answered a question directly? Or that he could throw a mean left hook?
I don’t know, but it took me down a road of unsuccessful relationships and my desire to “change them.” What I’m trying to say is, from my experience, though bad boys are tempting, they’re trouble. [Read: The things movies didn’t teach us about how to be a ladies man]
Being a nice guy isn’t a bad thing, that’s the first thing you need to know. You can still be a nice guy and get the girl. What women don’t like is a pushover and that’s why we tend to be drastic and go for bad boys.
How to be a bad boy
Bad boys tell us no, they make us step outside of our comfort zone, bad boys are risk takers. They challenge us. But if you’re genuinely a nice guy, being a bad boy will be quite a challenge for you. Remember, you don’t have to go all the way. Simply add a couple sizzles to yourself and see how it works.
Learning how to be a bad boy is as simple as just changing a few things in your routine. Try these, and women will soon see you as a bad boy!
#1 Don’t try to look like a bad boy. Don’t cut your hair, buy a leather jacket, and get a tattoo of a Chinese symbol for strength. Being a bad boy doesn’t actually have anything to do with looking bad. It’s all about the mind. Now, if looking like a bad boy helps with the mindset, buy the leather jacket. But, I’m telling you, it’s all in the mind. [Read: The nice guy syndrome and 16 reasons why girls find them boring]
#2 Put you first. Now, I’m not saying bad boys don’t care, they do. But, they make sure to put themselves first. Actually, that isn’t a bad thing, if you don’t take care of yourself, how can you be in a stable relationship with someone? So, if you want to know how to be a bad boy, make sure you take care of yourself first.
#3 Be honest. I actually think this is why women love bad boys. In reality, they’re no different from nice guys other than the fact they say exactly what’s on their mind.
There’s something alluring when a guy is brutally honest with you. It shows masculinity. They don’t care about what others think. Plus, being honest shows authenticity which nice guys, even though they’re nice, lack. [Read: 13 scenarios where brutal honesty is an obligation]
#4 It’s all about confidence. Confidence is the key to anything. You can wear a paper bag as a shirt, but if you wear it with confidence, it looks hot. Confidence comes from within. It’s about truly appreciating and loving yourself for everything that you are, both good and bad qualities. Work on your confidence, and you’ll get every woman in the room.
#5 They do things with a purpose. The thing with nice guys is they can be unsure around women. Maybe they say something they’re nervous to say or want to kiss you but don’t know how. But bad boys don’t struggle with this. Why? Well, it’s linked to their confidence and the fact that whatever happens, they roll with it. Even if they accidentally do something, they turn it into a purpose.
#6 They know what they want. If they want the girl, they go and get the girl. There’s no discussion, no sweaty palms, or making a pros and cons list. They see her, they like her and they try to get her. They may get rejected, don’t think bad boys don’t face rejection, but it doesn’t stop them from continuing onward. [Read: Why girls like bad boys and think it’s awesome to date one]
#7 Bad boys choose the pace. They don’t allow friends or a woman to dictate the speed of their life. If they want to move slow, they move slow. If he wants to move fast, he hits the gas. If you want to be a bad boy, go the pace that suits you, not what suits others. This is why you end up chasing people rather than leading them. [Read: How to turn the tables and make a girl chase you]
#8 Fitting in isn’t hot. Why do women love bad boys? It’s because they’re hot and they stand out. They don’t try to fit in to be cool, they don’t care. They do what they want. Whether it’s cool or not doesn’t concern them. So, if you try to follow the latest fashion trends or listen to the most popular music, that isn’t what it’s about.
#9 Don’t pick a woman who’s a project. I have this problem with men, I pick the ones that need help, the ones that require a lot of work. This isn’t what a bad boy does. We all have baggage. The difference is, don’t choose someone who doesn’t want to work through their issues. This is something nice guys tend to do. They pick a girl with issues, but who doesn’t want to change.
#10 Don’t put anyone on a pedestal. If you like a girl, that’s great, but you should know that she’s not a goddess. This is where guys get all mixed up and end up being the nice guy. They’re head over heels for a girl and put her on a pedestal which makes her feel that she has you wrapped around her finger. You can still be head over heels without losing your self-respect. [Read: 12 reasons girls run and pull away when you get closer]
#11 You decide. This is what makes the difference between a nice guy and a bad boy. Bad boys think for themselves and are self-reliant. They don’t look for help from their friends—okay, they do ask their friends for help, but they make decisions on their own. You know the answer to your questions, you’re just not looking within yourself.
#12 They say no. Nice guys don’t say no, even though they know that they should, they don’t. They don’t want to ruin their chances with a girl or get her upset. Bad boys don’t care. They know they have to say no, why they say no, and have no problem saying it. Say no, please. [Read: How to say no, stop people pleasing and feel awesome instead]
#13 Be passionate. Bad boys aren’t people without emotions or feelings. Bad boys are passionate individuals who just happen to be brutally honest and confident. Sure, this makes them look like assholes but it doesn’t mean they don’t have a soul. They’re sexual beings, passionate, and they want to share their emotions with someone, but not just anyone. [Read: 20 traits that make a guy a real man]
#14 They don’t let anyone play them. Nice guys know when they’re played. However, they just go along with it because they really like the girl. When you know you’re getting played, pull out. Yes, you’ll lose the girl, but it’s better than losing your dignity and self-worth.
You don’t need to steal a car to be a bad boy. Instead, follow these tips for how to be a bad boy, and you’ll be well on your way to the wild side.