Need to inject a bit of fun along with the passion and romance? Here are 10 tips that will help keep relationship boredom at bay.
There are so many of us in relationships who internally question if we are enjoying it or if we’re becoming boring people. For example, when our friends start getting married and having children, that doesn’t mean they won’t have fun and never hang out with us again. It certainly doesn’t mean that they are incapable of having fun either!
As you get older and start to find yourself a serious relationship, it’s very normal to think about things such as having kids, starting a family, getting married, and any of the other responsibilities and expectations that come with being an adult. However, just because you might get into a serious relationship and start looking toward the future, it doesn’t meant you can’t do all these things and still not have fun while doing so.
How to make things more enjoyable in your relationship
Don’t believe people who say that you can’t be a little silly while still being a responsible adult. You can fulfill your relationship responsibilities while still doing the following fun things.
#1 Play dress up. It may seem like an obvious tip, but believe it or not, so many couples forget about this one. Lingerie isn’t the only way to play dress up when it comes to making your relationship a bit more interesting.
If you find yourself feeling a bit bored in the bedroom or just in general, one very easy way to spruce things up is by dressing up for each other. This can be anything you want it to be: role playing, or sexy, or even something as simple as pulling out your old Halloween costume from last year. It doesn’t have to be Halloween to put on a sexy or interesting outfit! [Read: Sexy role playing games to try]
#2 Scavenger hunt. Another very easy way to make your relationship more exciting is to play games with each other and tease one another. A great example of doing so would be something like creating a scavenger hunt for your spouse to figure out and play. It could be something as simple as leaving and dropping clues throughout the day that eventually lead them to find the final clue that explains what you’re having for dinner one evening.
If you choose to, you could make it even more enticing by teasing them throughout the whole week. Whatever you decide, the more clues you decide to leave, the more exciting the challenge becomes. Let your inner Nancy Drew ways prevail!
#3 Photo shoot. You don’t have to wait until you’re engaged or celebrating your wedding to do a professional photo shoot together. For example, maybe you’ve always been a huge fan of Elvis and Priscilla Presley, and if so, do a tribute to them and dress up in throwback 60’s clothes, pretending you are Elvis and Priscilla.
Sure, it may seem silly, but once you get in front of the camera, and once you see how great your photos turn out, you won’t hesitate for one second to be proud of your spontaneous shoot!
#4 Film. This one goes very much along with the whole photo shoot idea, except it takes it a few steps further and makes things a bit more intimate. Depending on your relationship and level of trust, or maybe just your level of confidence, one way to make your relationship much more fun is to film yourself and your partner being intimate.
I don’t mean necessarily making a sex tape for keeps, but more so along the lines of filming yourself having sex with each other, watching it immediately afterward, basking in all the glory, and then deleting it. It’s always a new experience watching yourselves going at it onscreen. [Read: 30 sexy ways to spice up your sex life]
#5 Travel. There is no easier way to make your life a bit more exciting than traveling and planning a trip to go somewhere. If you have found yourself feeling bored or really just itching for something new, then start looking up some places to where you can have a weekend getaway, or if you have time, an actual week-long vacation.
It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant, but getting out of your day-to-day routine, and getting a change of scenery is sure to make you and your partner a bit more energized when it comes to being together. Sometimes, getting out of dodge is all you need! [Read: 10 awesome things a sex vacation can do for you]
#6 Try something new. We see things on TV all the time that involve couples trying something new. For example, it could be shows like The Amazing Race or Dancing with the Stars or a cooking show. It doesn’t matter what it is, it is safe to say that so much of reality TV is centered on couples and trying new things.
So if you have found yourself wanting to have a little more pep in your relationship step, then try something new together. If you’ve always talked about salsa dancing, then find a place locally that you two can sign up for lessons. Or maybe you want to paint, so look for a venue where you two can go paint once a week. Or it can be something as easy as just going to the gym and taking a yoga class together.
Whatever it may be, just make sure that it’s something you both have expressed an interest in. Once you put yourself out there, and you dive in head-first together, you’ll be having so much fun together and wondering how you ever got by without all your new hobbies.
#7 Start over. So many couples tend to forget where the magic started in the first place with their relationships. Sometimes, it’s important and exciting and fun to take it back to where it all started, and to “date” all over again. There is nothing cuter and more fun that reminiscing over your first day together by actually reenacting it with one another.
Call up the restaurant where you two first went out and make a reservation. Or go to the bar where you two talked for hours over beers. Remind your partner how that one little date changed your lives forever. It’s a super easy way to let the special person in your life know just how special they really are. [Read: 25 topics to talk about in a happy relationship]
#8 Pets. If you are in a serious relationship and feel like you might be getting closer to that point where you are thinking about having kids or wanting kids, then before you do so, get a pet together first. One of the best ways to get an idea about adulthood and parenthood is by adopting a pet.
Not only is having a pet somewhat similar to having a kid, but it’s also a great way to have an excuse to buy silly outfits for your dog or cat or to splurge on cute little treats from time to time. It’s also an easy way to come up with ideas like working out together or picking out cute pet names together. Having a furry critter to care for will definitely make things more fun! [Read: 10 reasons why your dog and your boyfriend are so alike]
#9 Separate. I don’t mean separate as in break up. What I do mean is that you should put some distance between each other and enjoy doing things yourself without relying on your significant other. Independence is sexy. Like they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder, so one way to make your relationship more fun is to make your partner miss you, so that your reunion will be all the more romantic.
Another perk of doing this is being able to do things you want to do without dragging an unwilling partner along. You can have a spa day or catch a game at the pub or indulge in your favorite sport without forcing your partner to tag along. Neither of you will be obligated to tag along to an activity you don’t enjoy, and that will definitely keep the resentment at bay.
#10 Surprises. You don’t have to actually give a gift to your significant other to surprise them in a way that is sincere, creative and meaningful. And oh yeah, fun! A very easy way to add more fun to your relationship is to surprise them with something that they wouldn’t ever see coming.
Maybe you’ve overheard your guy talking about how he wishes he could see his favorite basketball team play when they are in town, or maybe your girl has been looking forward to going to a new outlet mall in town, or maybe it’s something even more simple like trying a new restaurant that’s about to open in a week.
Whatever it may be, don’t tell your partner that you are thinking about doing it, and instead, just give him basketball tickets or whisk her away to that new mall or get reservations. It’ll blow your partner’s mind, and let them know just how much you love them, and it’ll also be fun planning all the little details to make the surprise happen in the first place.
You don’t have to be single to be considered fun. In fact, there are so many couples roaming around that are tons of fun to be around. Being in a relationship doesn’t automatically make you boring and predictable!
Candidly speaking, my fiancé and I spent our entire Valentine’s Day with a group of our friends because we were having so much fun. We already know that we have the rest of our lives to be all lovey-dovey and together all the time, so we might as well treat every other day like a getaway, romantic or otherwise.
And that is my entire point! You don’t need to wait for a holiday to roll around for you to do something different. You don’t need a date on a calendar to know when you should be trying an exciting activity. [Read: 25 sweetest gestures for everyday life]
Enjoy every minute and moment with each other, and start doing the expected things when they are least expected. It’s the little things in relationships that make them so worthwhile, so meaningful, and a lot more fun!