Love is not for the faint of heart. We’ve all been hurt by love before, and now it’s time to look at all the reasons
Love, it’s a beautiful thing, right? It’s what makes the world go ‘round, it’s what binds us together, what makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside, right? WRONG. Love sucks, in fact. It sucks big time.
Let’s face facts. Some of the most painful times in our lives have been because of love, maybe it’s a breakup, maybe it’s someone rejecting you, maybe it’s falling for a guy on a dreamy summer’s holiday but knowing you’ll never see each other again. Even when you’re in a happy and stable relationship love hurts you throughout.
Love sucks… and there are so many reasons why!
It really is a wonder why we bother with it at all sometimes. So, let’s finally lay the cards on the table and look at all the many reasons why love sucks!
#1 It makes us look foolish. Has there ever been a bigger fool than a fool in love? Love makes us do and say totally dumb things. It makes us put ourselves out there in ways we would never usually dream of. In short, it makes us look like idiots. [Read: What’s so hopeless about the hopeless romantic?]
#2 It stops us from seeing the truth. They say love is blind, right? Well, love certainly sometimes makes us see things through those rose tinted spectacles, or we refuse to believe something about a person *even though it’s blindingly obvious* simply because we just love them too much to see the negative. Or, worse still, we end up in denial about the truth and get even more hurt further down the line.
#3 We waste it on those who don’t deserve it. We also lavish it on people who don’t want it or can’t handle it. What a waste of energy!
#4 It’s full of false promises. When we fall in love, we believe this person is perfect, we hope so much for them and hang on their every word. The more we fall for them the harder it is to see their faults, and then suddenly we do, and it’s all too late! [Read: Why does love hurt so much when it goes bad?]
#5 It’s a big ‘ol faker. Think of all the times you thought you were in love but then it turned out the other person was a total jerk the whole time. It turns out you weren’t in love with them at all. Love tricks you into thinking it’s the real deal when it actually isn’t.
#6 We get it confused with sex. Love is very dangerous when confused with sex. Sure, being physical and intimate can be part of love, but love cannot be solely based on sex. Sometimes it can be difficult to differentiate between the two. That gets us into all sorts of trouble.
#7 Love sucks because when another person bestows it upon us, and we don’t want it, we feel like awful people. Unrequited love is bad when you are being rejected, but when you reject someone, particularly if that someone is a person you care about, it is even worse.
#8 Sometimes it feels like there isn’t enough of it go around. Fighting over love is the worst.
#9 It causes us to stay with people who aren’t right for us for far, far, far too long. We do it because we love them, but in our heart of hearts, we know it will not end well. [Read: 20 signs that reveal your relationship is oh-so-over already]
#10 Love sucks because we sometimes stay in situations that are bad for us for far too long. We hope people will change, but they never do. We end up confused and hurting.
#11 Sometimes we lose it. Lost love is painful, especially when we can’t understand why we are losing it.
#12 Love sucks because we need it. Without love, we feel completely lost and alone. Every human being needs all sorts of different kinds of love to feel happy. We are so dependent on love that it can be hard when we lose it, want it, or can’t have it in exactly the way we need. [Read: The 10 types of love you’ll experience in your lifetime]
#13 It transcends death. That means if you lose someone whom you love you still love them, you still want them, and you still miss them even after they are gone. That is the worst kind of love of all.
#14 It clouds our judgement. Love makes it impossible to see right from wrong sometimes. We think we know ourselves to the core, and then love comes along and makes us question everything.
#15 It makes us weak. Love makes us vulnerable to hurt and pain we never knew existed.
#16 Love sucks because it’s fickle. Love can last a lifetime sure, but it can also be as fleeting as a leaf floating through the air on an autumn breeze. Love touches us and leaves us without even realizing what a huge and devastating impact it has made on our lives. [Read: 10 signs you’re lovesick and 10 ways to get out of it]
So, why do we do it?
Well, let’s be honest, though love is painful, and it does indeed suck a lot, there are still a few good reasons out there which mean we still keep looking for it. After all, if love were so bad, surely we should have decided we didn’t need it anymore. Instead, we keep coming back for more, time and time again, which means love must perhaps be worth it?
Let’s look at some of the reasons why, despite it sucking, love might just be worth it after all.
#1 Love is worth it because it means you know someone. Loving someone means you know them through and through. Someone letting you in that much creates a special bond that cannot be broken. [Read: Not child’s play! 20 love riddles and the complexity of love]
#2 Love is worth it because it makes you feel safe. Love is supportive and unwavering. Love makes us feel protected and calm, and like there is always someone out there that has our back.
#3 Love makes us better people. People who feel love want to give it out more. If someone shows love to you, it makes you want to do the same for others. That’s what makes the world a wonderful place to live in.
#4 Love always appears again. Just when you think all hope is lost, and perhaps there is no love left in the world that’s reserved for you, along comes something totally surprising and unexpected and then you fall truly, madly, deeply in love all over again! [Read: We accept the love we deserve – Why aren’t you worthy?]
#5 Love is worth it because it allows you to be your true self. There is no need to hide or pretend to be something that you are not when it comes to love. Love allows you to be yourself, without judgement or expectation. Love accepts you for who you are, even the sides of you that you wish you didn’t have. That’s what love is all about.
We all know love sucks, and it can be a tricky emotion to deal with, one that remains so no matter whether we are in or out of a relationship. However, despite all that love is still worth it and we all do need it in our lives.