No one wants to accept the fact their relationship is ending. But sometimes it’s better to end things when you see these signs of a failing relationship.
I knew it was over with my ex. The signs of a failing relationship were everywhere. We were fighting all the time. He broke up with me at least a handful of times before. But this time, it was different. I didn’t want to go back to him. I knew it was over.
When he told me he wanted to work things out, I looked at him with exhausted eyes. I didn’t want to work things out. Our relationship was on its last legs, and I didn’t want to fight for it.
Of course, my insecurities kicked in right away, and I got back together with him. It took me a while to accept that the relationship was over and I needed to move on. [Read: How to end your relationship without bitterness and drama]
How to tell the signs of a failing relationship
Accepting your relationship is over isn’t as easy as you think. You make up excuses to yourself; fear the chance you’ll end up alone. Once you pass those thoughts, everything looks brighter and is brighter.
If you’re feeling that your relationship is coming to an end, you’re probably right. That being said, you may need an extra helping hand in taking the next step to being single. Knowing that your relationship is failing is the first step to accepting the situation. So, let’s get started and figure out what’s really going on in your love life.
You need to get out while you still can.
#1 There’s no more arguing. Though everyone may say they hate arguing, it’s a sign of a healthy relationship *of course, I’m talking about healthy arguing*. If you stopped arguing with your partner, it shows that you’re no longer interested in fighting for them or speaking your mind. The reasons behind why you’re slowly falling out of love]
#2 Your partner isn’t available. You shouldn’t do everything together, but as a couple, you do spend a lot of time with each other. However, if you and your partner hardly have time to see each other anymore, that’s a sign you aren’t as connected as you once were. If you are hanging out separately with friends and making plans without each other, that’s not a good sign.
#3 They don’t listen to you. When you speak, whether about the weather or a story about your day at work, they don’t listen to you. Your partner may nod their head, but they’re no longer actively listening or engaging with you in conversation. In other words, they’re creating distance and emotional separation. [Read: 25 topics all couples need to talk about in a happy relationship]
#4 You let them do whatever they want. When you were in love, watching your partner check out other people drove you nuts with jealousy. But now, they could walk up to someone and ask for their number, you wouldn’t even flinch. One of the clearest signs of a failing relationship is when you stop caring what they do; instead, you’re tolerating them until the relationship is over.
#5 There’s a lack of intimacy. I don’t want to say that sex is the most important part of a relationship because it’s not. But it what divides friendships from romantic relationships. If you aren’t intimate anymore, that’s a huge sign something is going on. If you’re feeling ignored or not interested in having sex with your partner anymore, examine that closely.
#6 There are no more future plans. When you talk about the future, your plans don’t include your partner. This is a big sign that you don’t see them in your life anymore. When you’re with someone you love, your future plans include them. But if you’re only thinking about yourself, it shows they’re not going to be there. [Read: 20 signs it’s time to recognize the end of your relationship]
#7 You or your partner has become extremely jealous. Before, neither of you were that jealous. But recently, ever since you started to have issues, jealously has become a key element of your relationship. This is because you know the relationship is struggling and insecurities are now popping out.
#8 All you do is have sex. This can also show a sign of a failing relationship. I know, right? Who thought too much sex would be a problem. Couples who are in failing relationships will each stop having sex or do the complete opposite and go into sex overdrive. Why? Because that’s the only emotional connection you have left.
#9 You’re not close anymore. Before, you would tell each other everything. This is what best friends do, and your partner was your best friend. But now, you don’t share personal information with them anymore. Everything feels a little distant and fake to you, and that’s because it is. [Read: 7 secret and subtle signs your relationship is starting to go bad]
#10 There’s contempt. If there’s the feeling of contempt in your relationship, the odds of you two surviving are low. Feeling hatred towards your partner isn’t something you spring back from. If you’re angry at the way they chew or breathe, you have a problem.
#11 Your partner disrespects you. Or vice versa. The point is, someone isn’t being respectful to their partner. Instead, resentment and anger have become common emotions when you are together. One of you is angry and upset with what’s happening. This is how it’s showing itself.
#12 Obsession with porn. What happens when there’s no more intimacy in a relationship? You’re going to look elsewhere to get what you’re missing. If you are watching it together for sexual arousal, that’s different. If you or your partner is watching a lot of porn, it’s a sign that you’re unsatisfied in your own relationships.
#13 You’re not able to resolve conflicts. It’s normal for couples to argue and bicker with each other, but eventually, those arguments are resolved. However, your arguments aren’t coming to a conclusion. Instead, you both shrug it off as a “whatever” and continue with your day. One of the clear signs of a failing relationship is when neither person is investing in the relationship at that point.
#14 Unhealthy attachments. You are in a failing relationship, so you turn to other people for support. Whether it’s an ex-partner, one-night-stand, or ex-spouse, you’re seeking other intimate relationships to cling onto instead of dealing with your own.
#15 Physical violence. Regardless of the reason, physical violence is never acceptable in a relationship. It doesn’t matter where the feelings are coming from, the moment a hand is laid on another person, the relationship is done.
Deep down, you probably know it’s over. But who wants to admit that to themselves? At least now you know the signs of a failing relationship and can do something about it.