If you’ve never been in love, don’t worry. And don’t waste your time looking for someone to be in love with, just for the sake of being in a relationship.
If all you know of love are the things you watch on television or the movies, you have more to learn about how being in love really could feel. Or at least, this is what the people who’ve been embraced and burned by love tell you. What these people don’t know, however, is people who have never been in love also have a thing or two to teach them about life and love.
After all, in all the craziness of our world and our lives, never having been in love still has some perks too—and you know it!
Life is still good, even if you’ve never been in love
So while you’re not falling yet, go enjoy your life. Live it to the fullest, complete yourself first, fill up your bucket list, and make each one come true. Do things you’ve always wanted to do. Trust that love comes at the right time, at the right place, and with the right person.
In the meantime, make yourself a cocktail or grab yourself some beer and raise your glass to yourself. You on your own are awesome. You rock *even if you’ve never been in love*! Here’s what’s great about your life if you’ve never been in love.
#1 It’s better than being in a bad relationship. You know how it is. You’ve heard the stories your friends tell you. Girl loves boy and boy abuses girl or cheats on her. There’s always some sob story in some relationship, and you don’t want any of it. You’ve been alone for most of your life, and you’d rather be with your friends or alone than be in love with someone who’s going to treat you badly. [Read: 7 secret signs that reveal a bad relationship]
#2 You’re not tied down. Since you’ve never been in love, there’s nothing to stop you from doing what you want. You are not attached to a person and can easily up and leave town to spend a year in Tibet if you want to. You can go up the career ladder all you want without having to worry about hurting your partner’s ego because you’re earning more than him. In short, you are free as a bird.
#3 You can do what you want. Similar to the earlier premise, if you’ve never been in love, you’re not afraid to do what you want. You can go out there and have fun. Meet people without the fear of being let down or getting led on. You can go out with your friends all night without worrying about someone worrying about you. At home, you can put your feet up and not shave your legs and be alright with how you haven’t taken a shower for days.
#4 You can enjoy life to the fullest. If you’ve never been in love, then you have never been heartbroken. You still have this beautiful view of the world and of people, not some jaded dissatisfaction and bitter contempt. You live life with pure joy and trust, and life for you is beautiful, even if you’ve never been in love or in a relationship. [Read: 18 ways to have high self-esteem and start winning at life]
#5 You haven’t had heartbreak. Since you haven’t given your heart to someone, then you haven’t experienced it get broken. Perhaps the only time you felt heartache was when the last episode of Game of Thrones aired, and you missed it and can’t wait for the next season *yes, we feel you*. When you haven’t experienced heartbreak or betrayal, then you can call yourself lucky—or just a virgin at love.
#6 You have something to look forward to. Never having been in love doesn’t mean you close your doors to the possibility of love one day sweeping you off your feet, or cupid aiming his bow at you *and you not missing it this time*.
Not having been in love means you still have love to look forward to. It gives you hope, a hope that one day you will find someone who’ll make you feel like the characters you watched on those chick flicks.
#7 It’s fine if you don’t end up with someone. If you’re in your 30s, 40s, or even 50s *or beyond*, and you’ve never been in love, then kudos to you. You have spent a big chunk, if not most, of your life not being in love. However, that doesn’t mean you’re love-less. [Read: Being single: 30 happy, inspiriting quotes for singles]
You have the love of your family and friends, and perhaps, your pet ferret. Your life is full of love even if you haven’t been romantically committed to someone. And you lived life just fine, you did not die or go crazy. So all is good.
#8 Good things come to those who wait. If you’ve not been bitten by the love bug yet, then perhaps you’re picky—but for good measure. With lots of couples heading to splitsville before they can even say “compromise,” then you know that if you must have it, then you must have the best.
To have it, you take your time to not just be in a relationship or be blindly in love with just about anyone. You’re willing to wait for the best—the best person for you. [Read: 10 things you do that’ll bring your soulmate to you]
#9 You don’t need it to be happy. Not everyone who’s in love is happy, and not everyone who’s not in love is miserable. However, knowing life without romance, love, or a partner, you know you don’t really need it to be happy. You got along just fine and, unlike other people, you don’t rely on someone else to validate you or your happiness.
You know how to be happy on your own. So whether or not someone comes along in the future, you’re not afraid to let go if things don’t work out, because again, being alone is better than being with bad company. [Read: 15 reasons why being single can be a lot of fun too]
#10 The spark is going to be huge. So huge it’s going to be like fireworks on the fourth of July, actually. If you’ve never been in love, then surprise—when love comes to you, it will be one helluva a great and amazing feeling.
There are people who’ve been in and out of love for most of their lives, and now they seem tired and jaded. There are also those who can’t wait to be in love with the next person they see, only to end up burned. [Read: 10 absolutely dreamy signs of love at first sight]
But not you. You bided your time *heck, you may not even think about it because you’re busy being awesome*, so when Cupid finally hits you with his arrow smack-right into your heart, then it’s going to be one you never forget.
Even if you’ve never been in love, sooner or later, you might be surprised to have it right in front of you. Meanwhile, enjoy the many perks of having no one and not pining after anyone—no love, no commitments, no problem!