There is a way to maneuver real life and one to deal with the complexity of love. Live by the sun love by the moon are two approaches to a fulfilling life.
To fully experience life you need to live by the sun love by the moon. It may sound cliché, but we are all born with a personality that guides our behavior and our experiences throughout life. Rarely do we get a glimpse of how wondrous life can be.
The problem is we try to live our lives uniformly, dealing with our relationships in the same manner we deal with our work life. Never fully being conscious, we go through life on auto-pilot not realizing what it is all about.
Live by the sun love by the moon is a way of living that involves combining all the spectacular traits we hold as humans, but separating them into realism and fantastical. During the day we are all guided by the confines of reality. Things like jobs and careers are necessary to survive, but for most, they don’t have the same relation to our psyche as loving and being in relationships.
The dichotomy living in each of us
Live by the sun love by the moon is a concept that says, within each of us, there is a dichotomy between what we are expected to do when we are being professional and what we choose to do when love takes hold. [Read: Where there is love there is life: Love makes us better]
If you try to handle each the same, you miss the boat on one side, the other, or both. Your love is not a business deal, and your business dealings are not about emotions or being concerned for the feelings of the other partners.
Learning to separate the way you handle yourself according to what the conditions call for, is the way to find the most satisfaction in life.
That is why you must live by the sun love by the moon.
Live by the sun
#1 Think logically. To live by the sun, you have to learn to separate your emotions from the daily grind. Not allowing your business time to encroach upon your relationship is key to a successful work and family life. Living by the sun means stripping business and work decisions of the feelings that sometimes muddle things and make them more complex than need be. [Read: 10 tried and tested ways to become a better leader at work]
#2 Having a healthy fear. Fear is a part of human survival. It is the way we navigate the world to survive. Built-in, it tells us when we should make certain decisions based purely on instinct and linked to the consequences of how things probably go. When you live by the sun, it is important to listen to that inner voice screaming out CAUTION!
#3 Have a plan and plan ahead. When living by the sun, the best way to maneuver through your day includes having a plan and planning ahead. If you show up unprepared and without proof or documents, then you are going to have a hard time achieving your goals.
A plan for your life is not a bad thing when it comes to your financial decisions, work or career ideas, or your future pathway.
#4 Follow the rules. During the day we all have to follow rules. In fact, rules were created to guide the way we learn, work, and conduct ourselves. Casual Friday is something to be adhered to, showing up when you are scheduled is a must, and acting properly is what the nine to five is all about. Without rules, business could never be conducted successfully. It would be utter chaos. [Read: How to succeed in life: All you ever need to know!]
#6 Conform to the expectations of others. When you live in the real world you have to be somewhat guided by the expectations of others around you, especially in the workplace.
Conforming to other’s standards, being concerned about what decisions you make based on the judgment of others, and gaining consensus, are all things that you have to go by in a workplace setting. Being a maverick is okay sometimes, but even then you have to know when you may be pushing too far and who not to piss off.
Love by the moon
#1 Think without logic. In emotional relationships you can’t always think logically. Many things in love are not black and white, nor are they clear cut. If you are always trying to think logically about what is happening, then you are missing the best part, which is reckless abandonment.
Giving into love and not trying to find a purpose or a reason for it, means you just get to live in the moment and enjoy it. If you always try to analyze what is what, why it works, or why it doesn’t, then you aren’t ever truly in a relationship but standing on the outside watching. [Read: Passion killers in romance and ways to get past them]
#2 Let go of fear. Fear in a relationship does nothing but hold you back and hold you hostage. Being afraid of being hurt or rejected is natural, but it is not the way you can blissfully enjoy love. Remember your first love? The reason it was so awesome and unforgettable is you gave it all you had.
You didn’t hold back. You had no idea what the sting of a lost love felt like. If you want to love by the moon, rewind to a time before you got hurt and rationalize if you never learn to let go, you never learn to live. [Read: Fear of intimacy: The hardships of being afraid of love]
#3 Let emotions be your guide. What is your heart telling you? When you go into a business deal, you typically get crushed financially if you are guided by nothing but emotions and intuition.
In love, there is nothing else. The little voice inside your head tells you what you need to do, whether you want to listen or not is your choice. If you live all in your head when it comes to love, you aren’t ever going to open yourself up enough to fully feel all the miraculous emotions it ignites.
#4 Go with the flow. When you love by the moon there can’t be a plan in place for everything. Love comes with no time frame, goal, or objective, and if you try to create one, it lets you down every time. Love is on its own plane, called fate, whether we want it to be or not. In fact, the more we try to control things, the less love we experience and the less we enjoy the treasured time we have with those we love.
There is no such thing as a five-year love plan. The problem is many try to create one. [Read: Accidental love – 12 love lessons from “Serendipity”]
#5 There are no rules. When you love by the moon, there are no rules about what you are supposed to do. There aren’t rules about when you are supposed to text someone, when you should sleep with them, or when it is too soon to say “I love you.”
Loving by the moon means you follow your own path and do things according to your heart. If you want to shout “I love you!” on the second date, do so. What is the worst that can happen? If nothing else, you know the sun shall rise again tomorrow. [Read: 10 adorable ways to say I love you to someone special]
#6 Make your own decisions no matter what anyone else thinks. You know why we all love the story of Romeo and Juliet? We love it because even though everyone in the world was opposed to their love, they didn’t care. Their love was so strong it was not going to be dictated to them by their parents or anyone else in their lives. So what if your friends think she isn’t pretty enough, or your parents think he isn’t successful enough?
You make decisions for yourself about who you love. If you are guided by what everyone else thinks, you just may miss the opportunity to be with the love of your life.
To live by the sun, follow the rules, be emotionless and make decisions based on fact and analysis. To love by the moon, to truly love, you sometimes have to abandon common sense, go with things that are uncomfortable and others might not approve of, and throw caution to the wind.