If yours has been labeled a complicated relationship for different reasons, you can still find success in it. Allow these 10 tips to guide you.
Some people are doomed to remain in a relationship categorized as “complicated” for as long as they live. They just don’t have these useful tips on how to find success in a complicated relationship.
There are so many reasons people find complications within their relationship. There can be commitment issues, trust issues, long distance, and even abuse issues. They just don’t know how to figure out their problems and find success in the relationship.
Why we stay in complicated relationships when we should just get out
A lot of people might say if you’re in a troubled relationship you should just get out. It’s obviously not worth it. Now, sometimes they may have a point, if it’s reached a critical point. But why is it we just can’t stay away sometimes?
Your love is blinding, that’s why. Sometimes you care so much for a person you don’t realize that maybe they don’t deserve your love. We might even stay because although things are rough now, we believe with the right help, it can be a happy and healthy relationship. [Read: 23 types of relationships to define your love life]
How to handle a complicated relationship and find success
Not all complicated relationships are doomed to failure. You can be in a less than great spot in the relationship and emerge just as happy and successful as the most “perfect” couple you can think of.
You may just need a little help to get there. Truthfully, complicated relationships always have some issue that needs working out. If you’re in a complicated relationship and want to make it a successful and happy one, here’s how you do it.
#1 Isolate the issue(s). Your very first step when handling a complicated relationship to make it a successful one is to find out what the issue is. What is the one thing holding back your relationship and making it difficult?
There may even be multiple issues you should deal with before finding success in your relationship. Does your partner have commitment issues? Do YOU have commitment issues? Do you not trust them? Are you long-distance? Solving these problems is the first step to having a successful relationship. [Read: 7 secrets signs that clearly reveal a bad relationship]
#2 Open your communication. Chances are, if your relationship is complicated then there is a severe lack in communication. Most complications come out of misunderstandings or problems the other person doesn’t even know exist.
Come to an agreement to openly talk to each other about everything. When you’re feeling insecure or distrusting or having a problem with what they’re doing or vice versa, openly talk about it and solve those issues immediately. [Read: A guide to effective communication in a relationship]
#3 Don’t be afraid to demand more. If you think your relationship is complicated, then you’re unhappy. If you believe in the person you’re with and that they’re the one for you, then you can’t be so darn shy about what you need from them.
Open your mouth and let your voice be heard. If they care about you the same way, they will comply if your want is reasonable. If not, then you shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t value you. [Read: How to fix a broken relationship: 15 tips to make it last]
#4 Realize you may be the problem. Maybe you’re the very reason your relationship is complicated in the first place. Look at the situation from an outsider’s perspective. Understand you may actually be the one thing stopping your relationship from being successful.
Be honest with yourself. Do you need some fixing before your relationship finds success? If it is you, you should adjust something in your life. Perhaps seek out additional help before you hope to have any successful relationship.
#5 Make your unhappiness known. You may think your relationship is complicated, but your partner may think everything is perfectly fine and you’re both as happy as ever. If that’s the case, you HAVE to speak up and let your unhappiness be heard.
Walk up to your partner, ask them to talk, and then just say it. Tell them why you’re unhappy and that you feel the relationship is in jeopardy. If your partner cares about you as much as you do them, then they’ll be willing to solve it so you can both be happy in a successful relationship. [Read: 17 secrets to a happy, monogamous relationship]
#6 Go to your support system. When your relationship is complicated it can be tempting to hide your problems from those closest to you just out of pure embarrassment. Open up to them and let them know what’s going on.
They can give you unbiased feedback on how to fix things, and may even help you find success in your relationship. Having this support system also gives you the courage to speak up to your partner about everything that’s going on as well.
#7 Spend some time apart. You may think this will do harm to your relationship, but it works wonders. You need to spend some time apart if you think your relationship is complicated. Being away from them for a decent length of time not only helps you miss them, but it’ll give you a clear head.
You’ll be able to think through your relationship and situation without their influence. You can figure out how you feel and what you want. Then you can make those clear to your significant other so you can move forward. [Read: How taking a break in a relationship actually works]
#8 Remember why you’re with them in the first place. It’s funny how when you’re with someone for a while and things start going bad you forget about why you got with them in the first place. You pretty much forget all about the qualities you love about them.
In order to handle a complicated relationship, remember why it is you’re with them in the first place. Who knows? Maybe you won’t be able to come up with a reason, and that tells you all you need to know about how to fix—or not fix—your relationship. [Read: When the love is gone: 15 gestures to bring back the love]
#9 Get rid of the obstacles making it complicated. If you both have really hard jobs and can’t really see each other or one of you has an ex that keeps popping up, get rid of them. I’m not saying to completely give up your job, but find a way to take some time to see them.
Getting rid of those obstacles gets rid of the excuses you both can use to not make your relationship a success. If you don’t have anything holding back your relationship, it can no longer be complicated. [Read: 15 reasons why you’re bored with your relationship]
#10 Love your significant other and show that every day. This may seem like an obvious thing to do, but most couples completely forget about this. They may tell their partner they love them on a daily basis, but if they don’t show it then it’s completely pointless!
If you don’t feel loved and neither does your partner, then it seems like a complicated relationship. Even doing little things here and there can work wonders in helping you both realize you can have a happy and healthy relationship.
Relationships are tricky things to figure out. For some of us, they end up being a complicated mess. If that’s you, then these tips will help you fix your complications and find success in your relationship.