Saying “I love you” is a powerful, vulnerable moment. But before you give your heart away, make sure you’re giving it to someone who’s emotionally available, intentional, and ready to grow with you.
Before you speak those three words, ask him these 7 questions—and pay close attention not just to his answers, but to how honestly and openly he responds.
1. “What does love mean to you?”
Everyone defines love differently. Some see it as emotional support, others as loyalty or physical closeness. His answer will show you how he views relationships and whether your definitions align.
2. “Where do you see this relationship going?”
It’s important to know if you’re on the same page. If he avoids commitment talk or gives vague answers, it might be a sign he’s not looking for anything serious.
3. “How do you handle conflict?”
Love isn’t just about the good times. How he navigates challenges says a lot about his maturity and emotional intelligence.
4. “What do you want in a partner?”
Does he describe qualities you have—or someone completely different? This helps reveal if he truly sees you, or if he’s projecting an ideal onto the relationship.
5. “Have you healed from your past relationships?”
Unhealed wounds can show up as emotional unavailability, trust issues, or fear of commitment. His honesty here matters more than perfection.
6. “What are your long-term goals and values?”
Love needs alignment. If your future visions or values clash, it could be a red flag that love alone won’t be enough.
7. “Why do you want to be with me?”
This one cuts deep. Listen for answers rooted in respect, admiration, and emotional connection—not just attraction or convenience.
Love deserves honesty. You deserve someone who sees you, values you, and wants to grow with you. Don’t say “I love you” until you’ve seen who he really is—beyond the chemistry, beyond the charm, and deep into his truth.
