Ever since the beginning of time, women have been looked upon as property and their sole purpose in life is to please their man. Although plenty has changed over the years, there is no denying that it is still important to keep your man happy in a relationship because when he is happy, you will be too.
Feminists, please put down your arms and revel in the fact that women now have the power to call the shots and decide what makes their man happy. It no longer entails just the opening of legs for * and childbirth.
At the end of the day, if you love someone, you should try your best to make them happy, irrespective of your gender.
25 ways to keep a guy hooked and happy in a relationship
There is an unbelievable amount of advice floating around the internet about keeping a guy hooked and happy in a relationship. You will find the good, the bad and the ugly. No matter what you come across, always remember that every man is different and that something that makes one man happy may make another miserable.
You are the best judge when it comes to knowing how to keep your lover satisfied and wanting more.
So what exactly makes a man happy? A six-pack of beer and a marathon of the top 10 Superbowl games of all time is not enough. Shockingly, it takes more than beer and sports to keep a man satisfied with his love life. Because of how different every man is, we decided to sit down with six men from different backgrounds and pick their brains.
They have very candidly shared what keeps them hooked to a girl and what makes them happy in a relationship. Here are the 25 things that we learned,
#1 Lengthen the leash. Whether you have been dating for three weeks, or been married for three decades, you have to give your man some breathing room. The same way you need girl time, he needs boy time.
Remember to never let him feel guilty about leaving you at home for the boys. Give him some freedom to be himself and to spend time with his friends. They are important to him and you should not take that away from him.
#2 Let him win *sometimes* No one likes losing battles on a regular basis, so you can imagine how your man feels every time he has to kowtow to your decisions and arguments. Whether it is establishing who let the raccoon in when they forgot to close the garage door, or something as simple as choosing whether to have Indian or Thai for dinner, let your man win every so often.
#3 Feed him. I suppose the cliché rings true. According to all six of the men questioned, a surefire way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. They find that women who cook are more * and confident than women who do not. Gone are the days of takeout menus and greasy drive-through burritos. As a man ages, so does his palate. Nothing pleases a man more than a hearty home cooked meal made by the love of his life.
#4 Unexpectedly pleasure him. When he least expects it, jump on him, in the literal sense, of course. Men love being surprised by * encounters. Whether it is swinging by his office during lunch time to give him a blow job or greeting him at home dressed in nothing but his favorite tie, pleasure him whenever you get the chance to.
#5 Pay. It does not mean that chivalry is dead if you pick up the tab now and then. Give your man’s wallet a break, be an independent woman and treat him to dinner. Even if he makes more than you, it does not mean that he should pay every time. You will be surprised at how turned on men get when they know their sweetheart can handle her own.
#6 Drive a stick. Never get between a man and his driving machine. Whether it is a beat up old Ford or a sweet Audi A8, do not underestimate how much love a man has for his vehicle. You will be surprised at how * men find women who can drive manual transmission vehicles. If you cannot drive a stick, learn. Perhaps that’s why French women are so desirable. All of them drive stick shifts.
#7 Do what he loves. Take the initiative to partake in activities that he enjoys, no matter how silly you think it is. Whether it is learning the ins and outs of Magic: The Gathering, or paragliding off a cliff, you need to make the effort to be enthusiastic about the things he loves. If you cannot bring yourself to base jump off a building with him, then don’t. Just support him as much as you can so he doesn’t have to feel guilty about spending time doing stuff without you.
#8 Get along with his boys. No matter how long you have been with your lover, always remember that his friends were there before you and if things ever get bad, they will be there after you leave. Boys are not difficult to please, so the next time they head over to play poker with your hubby, surprise them all with some import beer and snacks. If his friends are important to him, they should be to you as well.
#9 Treat his mum like your own. Boys love their mummies more than anyone else, even you, and you have to accept that. Keep him hooked and happy in your relationship by treating and loving his mum as though she were yours. When he sees that you genuinely care, you will melt his heart. The same goes for his entire family. Treat them all as your own.
#10 Be independent. Do not be clingy and needy. A man hates it when the woman they are with acts like a child. If they wanted a kid, they would have had one by now. So act your age and behave like a strong, proud and independent woman. Do not bombard him with phone calls, texts, and emails. Play it cool and live your life without having to rely on your lover all the time.
#11 Be passionate. This bit of advice can be applied to every facet of your life. You should be passionate in everything that you do and not be halfhearted about anything. Whether it is throwing yourself into your latest work project, giving it your all making brunch for your friends, or making love like a wild animal, men love it when their ladies are passionate.
#12 Be naughty. There is nothing wrong with leading a conventional life. However, try not to let your * life become lackluster. Turn up the fun by turning up the kink. Do something spontaneous like surprising him with * in the car right after you pick him up from the airport, or dress up in * lingerie and greet him at the door. Even better, head to his office dressed in nothing but your trench coat and get hot and heavy. Ask him about his ultimate * fantasy and play it out.
#13 Be spontaneous. As much as you love your organizational and planning skills, ditch them when you can. Exhibit passion and excitement and be spontaneous every so often. Whether it is getting in the car with your man for frozen yogurt and ending up in a Bed and Breakfast in the next state, or throwing an impromptu soiree to celebrate nothing at all, be spontaneous in life and it will be hard for him not to be hooked and happy in the relationship.
#14 Show off your funny side. Women love funny men and men love funny women. Do not be embarrassed to joke around. Contrary to what you may think, men love a chick who can crack jokes and laugh at herself. Making him laugh will seal your fate as the woman he wants to keep around in his life.
#15 Respect time-outs. All the men surveyed for this article attest to the fact that they need their space after an argument. Not everyone wants to talk about their feelings after a big fight, well at least, not most men. You need to respect time-outs and give your lover his space to brood. Whether it was your fault or his, let him stew it out and you will find that it makes the makeup * that much more explosive.
#16 Be flexible. Do not be rigid when it comes to schedules and plans. Be flexible and let him plan out his day according to what he needs to get done. Although you made dinner reservations for 8pm, let it slide if he shows up at half past 8 due to a holdup at work. You have to let the little things go if you want to keep him hooked on you and happy in your relationship.
#17 Be honest, but not brutal. Although honesty is the best policy, do not be brutal and mean when you tell him the truth. As much as you hate his gross habit of clipping his nails in bed, or despise the way he dresses, do not harp on it till kingdom come. Let him down gently and calmly suggest some positive changes. The same goes to other things that peeve you off.
#18 Don’t take him for granted. If you want to keep your man happy in the relationship, you must never take him for granted. Sure, it is nice being pampered and treated like a princess, but a relationship is a two way street and you have to reciprocate. No matter how long it takes, he will eventually figure out that you are walking all over him and leave you.
#19 Be supportive. You should stand by your man through thick and thin, especially when it comes to difficult life decisions. If he wants to quit his high-powered accounting job to go salmon fishing, then let him. If he wants to severe ties with a relative who hurt him, then support him in his decision. No matter how unpleasant it may be, your partner needs your support to help him through the tough times so ensure that you are there for him.
#20 Show appreciation. He may have burned the pancakes while making you breakfast. He may have forgotten that you only take decaf coffee when he went on a coffee run. He may have purchased the wrong dress size when he decided to buy you something nice.
No matter how badly he screwed up, it is the thought that counts. Tell him how much he means to you and that you appreciate everything that he does for you. Sincerely do this once a day and you can be sure that he will be hooked on you for a very long time.
#21 Stroke his ego. Men love hearing how awesome they are. Whether it is telling him how great his butt looks or how smart he is for killing the acquisition presentation, compliment him as often as you can. Like women, men love it when their significant other appreciates them inside and out.
#22 Boast about him. Whether it is in front of him or behind his back, boast about him and be proud of your man. As timid or modest as he may be, he will undoubtedly love it when you shout from the rooftops how lucky you are to have him.
#23 Don’t let yourself go. All the men surveyed said that a woman who looks and feels good about herself is * as hell. Looks count, not because they love showing you off, but because when you look good, your confidence skyrockets and men love that. Even after 30 years of marital bliss, do not let yourself go. Sure everyone puts on a few pounds over the years, especially after popping out kids, but make an effort to look good for yourself, and for your man.
#24 Lead in bed. As much as some men love being in control between the sheets, they love it even more when their lover takes the lead. Do not be shy to explore his body and experiment with him. If you can’t go wild during * , then when can you? Take the lead, show him what you’ve got, and enjoy listening to him moan for more.
#25 Don’t be a bitch. Whether you are having a bad day or simply battling PMS, do not take it out on your lover. The last thing he needs is to deal with a pissy woman placing the blame on him for every little thing. Learn to control your temper and channel your rage towards something else more efficient and worthwhile.
Keep the channels of communication wide open and discuss what makes both of you happy. At the end of the day, there are plenty of things that you can do to keep your man hooked on you and happy in your relationship. But remember that this is a two way street, so instead of taking, taking and taking, you should learn to give more and be appreciative for all that you have.