Is your relationship falling apart in front of your very own eyes?
It’s easy to know if your young love or seasoned marriage is inching closer to the edge of the precipice, ready to take a freefall to its death.
All you have to do is ask yourself if you’re happy in the relationship with your lover.
If you’re happy, or at least content, well, chances are, you’re doing alright for now.
But if you’re experiencing a prolonged state of unhappiness or dissatisfaction in your love life, there’s a very good chance that things are not all jumpy and dandy in love land.
20 signs to know if your relationship is definitely over
Do you ever get that niggling thought at the back of your mind that, perhaps, your relationship may be doomed?
Read these 20 signs and ask yourself if you experience any of these signs. Or send these signs to your partner and ask them if they can relate to these signs.
If either of you experience more than just a few of these telltale signs in your rocky romance, perhaps it’s time to have that we-need-to-talk conversation!
#1 You don’t respect your partner anymore. You think your partner is a good person, but deep within, you don’t admire them or think their words are worth your time. If you don’t think your partner is worth your admiration, in all probability, you may be looking down at your partner or perhaps even feel embarrassed by them!
#2 Spending time together is boring. Both of you just don’t have anything to talk about anymore. Silence in conversations is a sign of comfort, but in your case, it makes you feel awkward or want to yawn! There are no little talks anymore, and your partner’s company just bores you to death.
#3 You don’t care. You don’t really care about your partner or what they’re doing with their life. You’re selfish and you’re only concerned with your own life, your own achievements and your own happiness. This may make you feel uneasy to accept, but you know it’s the truth.
#4 Your eyes wander. You think you love your significant other, but you can’t stop your eyes from looking all around you all the time. You start finding another person or two a lot more interesting and exciting.
But don’t be ashamed if you do, because this is a lot more common than you think. After all, if you don’t find your partner attractive anymore, can you help yourself from falling for someone else? [Read: Things to keep in mind when you start falling for someone else]
#5 Your partner is full of flaws. You can’t help but constantly pick flaws in your husband or wife. All the time! Every time you see them, or every time they do something, they just seem to be riddled with flaws and imperfections.
#6 You’re not emotionally connected anymore. You’re indifferent to your partner’s feelings and thoughts. You may pretend to care about your boyfriend or girlfriend, but deep inside, you know you don’t really give a damn about what your partner is feeling or what they’re up to. You love your partner, but you don’t want to involve yourself so deep that you have to play a part in making them feel better about themselves.
#7 Staying in touch is a chore. You hate having to constantly call or text your partner to keep them updated about your life when you aren’t around them. Even if it’s just calling each other a couple of times a day, it just annoys you because you feel like you have to report to someone about where you are and what you’re doing.
#8 You can’t see a future together. There are no talks about the future between the both of you. And your partner no longer plays a pivotal role in your big scheme of things. If there are any thoughts on the future, the last person you think of is your significant other!
#9 Your happy fantasies. You fantasize about your life without your partner. In your fantasy, you’re either seeing someone else or just being single and hopping from one partner to another. And those dreams actually make you drool!
#10 Daily lives. You don’t tell your partner about your daily events. And you don’t ask your partner about their day. And frankly, you don’t care!
#11 Your partner annoys you easily. You try not to hate the things your partner does, but even the smallest things they do piss you off to no end!
#12 No * . It’s not that you hate * , but somehow you don’t enjoy having * with your partner anymore. You like * , but having *with your partner feels so dispassionate and boring.
#13 Fluttering eyes. You’ve started flirting with someone else behind your partner’s back. And even if your partner feels threatened and tells you to avoid this person, you just don’t care about your partner’s insecurity. On the other hand, even if you realize that your partner is flirting with someone else, you don’t feel jealous about it *a little disgusted perhaps!*.
#14 The worst side. You’re really nice to everyone and you always put your best foot forward in public. But unintentionally, you realize that you show your worst side to your partner. And you do nothing to change yourself or portray yourself in better light in front of your lover.
#15 No miss-you’s. You don’t ever miss your partner when they aren’t around. In fact, just spending some away time from each other gives you that moment of bliss you’ve been longing for!
#16 You crave for space and privacy. Your partner just seems to be around you all the time. And you hate it! If you’re on Facebook and your partner peeps into your screen, you don’t know why, but you just want to box their face. You love space and keep distance from your partner when you’re trying to relax.
#17 Everything your partner says is stupid. Your partner just looks like an idiot to you! When they talk or try to explain something, all their words vanish into a haze and all you hear is m-o-r-o-n!
#18 Comparisons galore! You start comparing your partner to all the other guys or girls that you fancy, and you always feel like you’ve got the shorter end of the stick. All your friends seem to have better and more understanding partners than you. And that irritates you more!
#19 Your partner saps your energy. You feel drained, annoyed and tired after spending time with your partner. You try to have a nice time with them, but the constant arguments and differences in opinions just tires you and makes you want to run away mid-conversation.
#20 You look out. You haven’t ever considered ending the relationship, but mentally you start searching for a backup! And you start fantasizing about this other person, or looking for ways to spend more time with this romantic backup. The romantic backup may be a good friend who gives you a shoulder to lean on, but before you know it, both of you may end up in an emotional affair whether you acknowledge it or not!