It’s easy to focus on what your partner is doing wrong, to get annoyed and frustrated by it, but have you ever stopped to think that maybe you aren’t doing everything right either?

It’s easy to see flaws in others but is it as easy to see flaws in ourselves? How do you know whether or not you are being a good partner?

15 rules you need to follow to be a good partner

If you truly want to be a good boyfriend/girlfriend or a good husband/wife, ask yourself if you follow these 12 rules yourself. Sometimes, in your determination to pick the flaws of your partner, you may be overlooking a few glaring imperfections in yourself!

Rule #1 You have a right to be angry but you don’t have the right to be cruel

If you want to be a good partner, then this is a really important one to remember. Everyone has a right to be angry, sometimes it can’t be helped, however it’s the way you deal with that anger that determines whether or not you are being fair.

It’s okay to tell your partner if they have done something to upset you, it’s not okay to insult them for it, to bring up the past or to throw things in their face. If you do this, then you won’t solve the issue that made you angry in the first place, you will just escalate the conversation into an argument. The likelihood is that your partner won’t have meant to upset you, so deliberately hurting them or insulting them is out of line, no matter how justified you feel at the time.

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Rule #2 Sometimes when you’re right, you still need to back down, for the sake of peace

It’s easy to get carried away in an argument, especially if you’re right. What isn’t easy is backing down. Sometimes, it just doesn’t matter who is right and who is wrong, the only thing that matters is ending the argument. Don’t let your pride rule you, you need to know when it’s okay to back down and make peace.

Rule #3 Accepting that people change will stop you from having to make a change

People change all the time, everything that happens to a person changes them in some way. Sometimes, it’s unnoticeable and sometimes, it smacks you right across the face. Accepting the fact that people change and going with it, will stop you from finding yourself with a stranger. If you can’t accept the changes that come from life, then sooner or later, you will find yourself needing to make a big change to get away from it.

Rule #4 No one is perfect and that includes you

It’s easy to say that you wouldn’t have done something, you wouldn’t have acted in that way or you wouldn’t have said what they said. It’s easy to judge other people from afar and criticize their choices, but you need to remember that you make bad choices sometimes too.

You are not perfect and you do things wrong, just like everybody else. And do you have anyone on your back about that? It’s unfair to expect anyone to be perfect all of the time and it’s even more unfair to make them feel bad about it.

Rule #5 Your partner’s friends were supporting them, long before you were

It’s really important that you try to get on with your partner’s friends. They were there long before you and have supported your partner through difficult times, and that means that they care. You don’t even have to like them, you just need to get on with them for your partner’s sake.

You don’t want to be that person who asks their partner to choose between you and their friends or family, because either way, you won’t like the result. Your partner will either pick their friends/family or they will resent you for making them choose.

Rule #6 You don’t have to be selfless but you do have to care

You shouldn’t have to be selfless in a relationship, but you do have to care about your partner. It’s not a case of putting them first every time because you deserve to be put first sometimes too. It’s knowing when you should put them first. Knowing when it really matters will make the most difference to them because it shows that you care about them and in a way, it does make you selfless.

Rule #7 Never expect anything from your partner

One thing that many partners do wrong is when they expect things from their partner, like somehow it’s solely their partner’s responsibility to pay the bills or to bring a little romance into the relationship. It’s unfair and it’s setting your partner up to fail.

A partnership is between two people and it should be both of their responsibilities to bring aspects to the relationship. This shouldn’t be expected though, it should be done without question. To expect something, is just as bad as demanding it, because when you don’t get it, you will be left looking like a spoilt child throwing a tantrum.

Rule #8 Be supportive in the good times and the bad times

It’s easy to support your partner through the good times, like work promotions and goal achievements, it isn’t always as easy to support them through the bad times though. Yet these are the times that they will really rely on your support, so you need to give it to them.

It doesn’t matter if you are disappointed, the likelihood is that they will be ten times more disappointed than you. So just be supportive and help them through, don’t kick them while they are down because they might not get back up again.

Rule #9 Never go the day without at least a kiss

It’s so important in relationships, especially long term relationships to keep up physical intimacy. Sometimes, it can be easy to take your partner for granted and to forget why they are in your life, so always try to remind yourself of that. Keeping intimacy in your relationship will stop you both from getting bored or wondering if the relationship has run its course.

Rule #10 If you want romance, bring it to the table

Don’t moan about the fact that your relationship is lacking romance, do something about it. You never know, your partner might respond by doing something romantic in return. If you really want something, then you should go out there and get it, you shouldn’t just wait around dropping hints. That will only get you frustrated if they don’t work.

Rule #11 Sometimes, the only thing left to do is walk away

Sometimes, in a relationship the only thing that is left to do, is to walk away. It doesn’t mean that it has to be permanent, it doesn’t even mean that you have to leave the building but if a fight is escalating and neither of you have anything nice to say, walk away. Give yourselves some breathing time, cool down and then try again. Nothing has ever been solved by screaming at each other.

Rule #12 It’s your job to cheer them up

It doesn’t matter if you have had the day from hell. If your partner has had it worse, then it’s your job to cheer them up. That’s what a good partner does, they put their lover before themselves when they know it needs to be done. Even if you have to try and find a clown at ten o’clock at night, you need to find a way to pick your partner up when they are down.

Rule #13 It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you should always make time

Life can sometimes feel like it’s flying by at a hundred miles an hour, but that doesn’t give you an excuse to put your partner at the bottom of your priority list. Again, it can be easy to take them for granted, knowing that they will wait around for you, but that doesn’t mean that it’s fair to make them wait. You should always try to put your partner up at the top of the list, if you can’t, then maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship.

Rule #14 Always be faithful, always be loyal

You cannot be a good partner if you cheat and lie your way through the relationship. It doesn’t matter why you lied or why you cheated. You could have the best excuse in the world for it, but it doesn’t make it right. If you are in a relationship then be in that relationship.

#15 Passion fades, but you need to look for ways to keep it alive

It doesn’t matter how passionate you are at the beginning of a relationship, it will eventually fade with time if you take your relationship for granted. The important thing is to find new ways to keep the excitement alive in the relationship, even if it means going out of your way to excite your partner now and then.

If you are in a relationship then you should always try to be the best partner you can be. The other person doesn’t deserve any less than your best, just like you don’t deserve any less than theirs.





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